Why You Need to Take a Damn Break... and Not Say Sorry About It
Ya'll, it's been so long! Intentionally, I took a break from blogging. Yup, yah girl needed a break. Better yet, I am not even going to say sorry for it.
We have so much to catch up on and so much time to do it! First things first, let's talk all about taking breaks and why they are so important.
Every one of us needs time for ourselves. Every single one of us can use some time to get ourselves together. We all can use minutes, days, weeks, and months where we can regroup, refresh, and reset. This summer was that for me.
At the end of June, I was physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted. I decided to stop it. I stopped going to the gym six times a week. I stopped blogging on the site every Sunday. I stopped dedicating time to jobs and projects that did not serve me.
When I decided to stop these commitments is when I decided to say yes to myself. The time I spent doing those things, I spent rededicating to my yoga practice, recommitting myself to my religion, and reconnecting with my people.
There is no need to say sorry for needing a break. We are human beings; we are not machines. We need to energize ourselves and we cannot do it by not allowing ourselves to take breaks. Saying sorry about it means that we think there is something wrong about needing a break.
I was raised by my parents to be a go-getter. I was raised by my parents to not let being a minority, in many ways, keep me from striving for more. I was raised by my parents to keep fighting the good fight, tired or not.
I am thankful to them for this mentality, but as I get older, I am realizing that this is just unrealistic. The past few months, I started to feel guilty that I couldn't juggle a million things and be on point in every facet of my life. I began saying sorry to people and organizations, until I realized. I don't need to.
We gotta speak more about saying sorry. According to my friend Google, apology is a regretful acknowledgement of an offense or failure. Who the heck are we offending by saying yes to ourselves? How the heck are we failing when we decide to take a break? If anything, we should be grateful that we are allowing ourselves to take a break to be able to give more fully to others.
I've certainly talked about apologies before in this post from October, but I find it is so relevant in this topic of taking breaks. Feeling any kind of guilt for saying no or pulling back from commitments is so unnecessary. We do not need to. Will we still initially feel it? Yes, but that does not mean we need to accept it.
I needed a damn break this summer, and I'm not sorry about it. I gained a little weight from not going to the gym and sticking to my BBG program. I neglected updating this website and blogging every Sunday. I quit my old job and started working for an amazing tech startup.
There is no way I am going to say sorry for any of those things. What do I need to apologize for? My break was not offensive or a failure. It was necessary and a win. I said yes to myself. In doing so, I am back here talking with you guys again. I am rejuvenated and ready to teach yoga again (stay tuned). But most importantly, I feel like myself.
How about you? What are some things that you need to let go of? What are some commitments that you can take a break from? And remember, no need to say sorry for any of it!